Lift Him Up
by: Saleama A. Ruvalcaba
About seven years ago, me and Omar attended a marriage retreat with our church. The speaker posed a question; ‘How often do you seriously pray for your spouse?” He went on to say, “Not a quick prayer before you go to bed; “Oh, Lord bless my husband or wife, Amen, goodnight.”
I sat there thinking, “Not very much.” We had been married almost ten-years at that time, and we never once engaged in meaningful prayer for each other.”
The Connection Between John the Baptist
While in class one evening we were having a discussion on John the Baptist. Someone in class brought up how John the Baptist doubted that Jesus Christ was the Messiah.
Luke 7:20 “John the Baptist sent us to you to ask, “Are you the one who was to come, or should we expect someone else?”
I did not take this verse to really mean that John the Baptist doubted Jesus Christ. In Scripture, John the Baptist seems so strong and knew he was there to prepare the way for Jesus Christ. The thought of him having doubts seemed crazy to me. But after a lengthy discussion in class, I was proven wrong. John the Baptist did doubt. My professor made the final point on this to help me see this verse clearly.
He said that we often look at those in leadership positions as strong (emotionally) without considering they too can be vulnerable. My professor making this point opened my eyes to the verse, and it helped me consider my husband and his fears as our spiritual leader and provider.
I have a woman’s devotional book here in my home. It’s an everyday devotional prayer book published by a major book publisher. It has twenty chapters on prayers that women should be praying each day. The book has prayers on fear, overcoming shame, and prayers for their children just to name a few. However, throughout the entire twenty chapter book, there is not one chapter on prayer for husbands. Since the book has prayer for children, I am going to assume the author expected married women to read the book.
Lift Him Up to The Lord
Our husbands are the leaders in our home. Men are considered to be strong. They provide. They’re tough. But the sad truth is, we sometimes miss the fact that they often do face times of weakness. They need prayers too – just like everyone else who sends us prayer requests. Your husband needs your prayers more. The time you give to others in prayer should also be spent lifting your husband up to the Lord every single day.
Remember, the foundation of this blog is about how when the physical intimacy in my marriage changed into an act of worship to God, my marriage changed dramatically. We went from treating each other like enemies, to a better marriage after we accepted Jesus Christ – to an amazing marriage once we saw physical intimacy through the eyes of God.
I suddenly became more sensitive to Omar and his needs as a man.
Have you ever asked your husband his prayer needs? Can you seriously be vulnerable with him?
Once our physical intimacy turned into love for each other and love for God, I could easily ask Omar his prayer needs.
Galatians 6:2 “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”
Every time I ask Omar his prayer needs, he gives me a list of things that are on his mind to pray about.
I was home by myself one day. I knew Omar was burdened with something he was dealing with. I started praying for him. I sent him a text letting him know I was praying this Scripture over him;
Psalm 128: 1-4 “All you who fear God, how blessed you are! How happily you walk on his smooth straight road! You worked hard and deserve all you’ve got coming. Enjoy the blessing! Revel in the goodness! Your wife will bear children as a vine bears grapes, your household will be like a lush vineyard. Your children will be like olive shoots around your table. Stand in awe of God’s Yes. Oh, how he blesses the one who fears God!”
I was home alone by myself all day. I could have spent that time writing, drinking coffee, on social media, simply enjoying my time alone. It meant so much to Omar to know I was home praying for him.
Your husband needs you, ladies. He needs your prayers.
-Saleama A. Ruvalcaba
Do you know where else your husband needs your prayers? In the area of sexual temptation. Don’t be fooled ladies. Your husband doesn’t have to have any obvious issues in this area, but Satan in on the prowl and those who don’t cover themselves in the prayers of the Lord are easy prey for Satan. Sign up to receive my next post on protecting your marriage from sexual temptations through prayer.